Kim finds her groove back in running; proves there is more to life than having job and cleaning house

Kim runs her toughest marathon with the prestigious Milo Marathon. If you can dare it, you can achieve it.

I started running in 2013 just for exercise. My husband Loi played lawn tennis in the nearby court and I went with him when I wanted to. The idea of joining marathons never even occurred to me. I never thought it to be a serious activity much less join competitions.

My curiosity got boosted by my friend Cecil’s Instagram and Facebook feeds while running. On the same year, I joined the Sunday Joggers Club composed of my college friends. One of them encouraged me to take it to the next level by doing road runs and join marathons. At that time, I was afraid to run outside of the sports complex alone. I felt I did not have the guts.

In my mid-40s at that time, I had so many fears. I was even certain that at my age, I won’t be able to reach the finish line.

Running is also teamwork, and the joy of celebrating with your team every accomplishment.Three years later, on July 2016, I finally joined my first 5K fun run. It was just for fun and it was a test to myself if I can do it. Surprisingly, I did and I even placed second in the Female Golden Category.

Tips for beginners before you decide to run the first time: Read and learn more of the correct form, landing of feet, the do’s and don’ts, what outfit and shoes to wear. You also need to check what kind of feet do you have so you can choose the right shoes that would give you the stability and neutrality. Start looking into your diet, what food to eat; even how to properly breathe while running. All of these are just a click in the internet.

As 2016 ended, I decided to join the South Cotabato Joggers and Walkers Club (SCJWC). On January 2017, we started our training in preparation for LUvRun Season for the month of February. Our training usually started at 3:00 -4:00 in the morning with uphill, downhill and flat terrains. We were divided into small groups and I was with the the Knight Joggers.

Running at the all-women marathon in Cebu City gave Kim that affiliation with many aspiring women marathoners.

We trained together and since most of us were working, we agreed on schedule that was convenient for everyone. On May 2017, we officially separated from SCJWC and renamed ourselves as Knights Runner team as most of the members are affiliated with the Knights of Columbus.

Why a team is important when running? Running is also teamwork. You get the support that you need especially when you do out-of-town activity. You plan together and share tips. It is easy to be recognized when you belong to a team. Running can teach you a lot of things about team building and camaraderie. It eventually goes beyond running and before you know it, you are a part of a family.

I started to notice a lot of positive changes with my health. I was physically fit and stress-free. It was a welcome change from my normal routine of office work and household chores. Even if I have to wake-up early for the daily and weekly trainings, I never felt the pressure. I always looked forward to the events we joined in. I slept early, I felt young and happy. When my husband joined the running team on April 2017, I was even happier because we now share the passion.

In such a short period, I piled up running achievements I haven’t thought possible. I realized I should stop underestimating myself and go for it like conquering the uphill climb. Always think higher!

10K Finisher – 40th National Milo Marathon in General Santos City. I ran alone without a team. Loi was my support and assistant. Being one of the most prestigious in the country, it boosted my morale to aim higher.

10K Finisher – LuvRun Season 1, 4 February 2017. My running partner is now best friend and running buddy Violet.

10K Finisher and 3rd Placer – Female Category, Philippine National Police (PNP) Region 12 Marathon, 4 March 2017. I tied up with Violet.

42K Finisher – Samal Marathon in Davao City, 7 May 2017. This was my first full marathon.

2nd Place – Female Golden Category, 50th Tinalak Festival, 17 July 2017. My personal record is 34min for 5K. I was then 51 years old.

21K Finisher – 41st National Milo Marathon in Gensan, 16 October 2017. This was my first in half marathon and also my first to experience legs cramps while on the 11thkm. I did not know what to do so I just walked and ran. I did not think of the medal anymore if I am not able to reach the cut-off of 2 ½ hours as long as I will finish strong and standing.

I almost collapsed due to exhaustion and pressure. But I learned discipline and how far can I go. The Milo Marathon has strict rules and if you finish both half and full marathons, you gain that hard-earned respect in the running community.

21K Finisher – Helubong Festival in Lake Sebu, 5 November 2017. This was an uphill and downhill challenge.

42K Finisher and 2nd Overall Runner Up – Female Category, Gensan Green Marathon Season 5, 12 November 2017. I tied up with Violet and Inday.

10km, 3rd Placer – Couple Run, LuvRun Season 2

50K Finisher – All-Women Ultra Marathon (AWUM) Season 7 in Cebu City. This was my first ultra-marathon. My personal record was 8-hours and 2 min and ranked 134 out of 350 runners.

5K Finisher – Iron Girl in Davao City, 23 March 2018.

It has become one of my couple goals with hubby Loi – to run together as we age. Isn’t that sweet?

My upcoming runs are already in the works:

May 13- Kasadya 6th Marathon in Sarangani Province, 21K (half marathon)

October 18 – 42nd Milo Marathon in GenSan – 21km (half marathon)

For every run or marathon, the registration fee would range between Php650-2000 (USD13-40). A lot of these events are for a cause that would benefit some community projects which makes every run even more fulfilling. Every time we prepare for one, we would always wonder aloud why we are punishing ourselves but as soon as we receive the competition shirts and the medals, we would ask when will be the next. Running became an important life for us.

Among these runs, my most unforgettable was that Milo Half-Marathon. I struggled throughout the race but arrived in time before the buzzer rang. I finished at 2:30:17 out of the cut-off time of 2:30. My effort paid off as I was still given the medal as a finisher – the last runner to beat time. I learned that since I did not go beyond 2:31, I was still within the cut-off.

To avoid leg cramps, which is likely when you are running for long periods, I am now wearing compression calf sock. It emphasized the importance of preparedness before every event. A marathon will require 2-3 months of training, proper dier and body/mind conditioning.

In between, our team also joined some virtual runs, runs for causes and any available events. During these times, we run at our own pace as long as we reach the target we have set among ourselves.

I am now 53 years old and enjoying the running events. I want to prove that in our 50s as women, we are not too old to just stay in the house wearing house clothes, cleaning and watching over our children. There is more to life than these – just find what you will love to do and learn new things in the process.

I have never earned this much medals in my life than when I started running.

We can even be sporty, wear shorts and racer-back tops like what younger women do. We need to change a lot of misconceptions and I have proven we can. As our group became closer, we also became more creative in between competitions, a good excuse to spend time together. We do early-morning birthday visits (mananitas) to members, doing holy rosaries together on Wednesdays and help organize local fun runs.

It is not easy. It will take a lot of discipline. You need to play by the rules. You have to be part of the team and every win is a team accomplishment. But all of these are worth it because as you keep on, you regain your health and prove that you can do more.

I found a lot of wisdom useful even to daily life goals in running. Each of these tips teaches us that you cannot achieve anything without preparing for it. Just like anything you want in life, you plan, work hard and celebrate for it.

More tips: Train at least four times a week. Hydrate. Observe proper diet. Talk to your doctor if you have a medical condition. Do not wear brand new socks, shoes, tops, sports bra during run. Just wear the practice shoes, socks, comfortable bra and tops compression socks. You must have hydration belt, lites and blinker. Stretch before the run. Some take GU gels or energy drinks but that depends on you. It is best to rely on your natural capacity.

We can dream big, can’t we? I dream of joining the big league such as the Boston Marathon, the London Marathon and the New York Marathon. It is almost impossible but who knows it can happen! For now, I am setting sights on Asian marathons together with Loi. That’s one couple goal for us!

As I have proven for just a few years after I joined the running community, anything is possible if you prepare and enjoy what you do.

Women finding courage with other women through running!

“Racing teaches us to challenge ourselves. It teaches us to push beyond where we thought we could go. It helps us to find out what we are made of. This is what we do. This is what it’s all about.” -PattiSue Plumer

Throw those fears and ‘what ifs’ out of the window: Maryann shows you can learn and drive in your 50s

When you have the persistence, you can do what you want. Maryann did it at 51. So can you!

Three years ago she decided it’s time to drive. Maryann Pudadera-Morales was already 51! Did she survive? You bet, she did! In the Philippines, it is almost a luxury to have a car, hence, not many women drive. Those who dare are a cut above the rest.

For one to do it past midlife even deserves an applause. With the kind of traffic we have in most cities around the country, it takes a lot of nerve and spunk. In her own words, here’s her story and the exciting adventure that went with it.

When did u decide to buy a car and drive?

When I moved as area services manager of South Cotabato 1 Electric Cooperative, Inc. (Socoteco 1), my office was in one of the malls in Koronadal City. It was almost a 2km daily commute from the house.  I usually go home at 7pm and my grueling challenge include walking to the highway to get a pedicab. It was uncomfortable passing through dim alleys. It often takes me two ‘rides’ as drivers would demand extra fare for direct trips.

This made me think of “what ifs”.  What if I drive my own car so I can move in and out anytime? I told myself I should start with a second hand car so I can have a trial period and will not lose my head if I end up damaging the car.

A week after, I found out my husband Boyet’s nephew was selling his blue Kia Sportage. I actually love the car! We agreed on a P65k (USD1,300) deal and it was delivered from Bukidnon to Koronadal on July 2015. None of us knew how to drive yet!

My sister Majal recommended Mikmik Marquez who taught at a driving school and in a month’s time I was driving. I maneuvered through the city’s traffic and the rotunda that most new drivers dread. I did not waste time. Few days after, I already drove long distance to nearby towns of Surallah and Tupi.

You think I am too confident? Of course not! While on the wheels, there were too many fears playing on my head: car stalls at the highway or intersection and cause massive traffic jam; attack of my astigmatism & farsightedness especially driving at night; and yes, an accident beyond my control.

What did I do? It is good I started with a good teacher who boosted my self-confidence and believed I can do it. He always had positive feedback when I commit mistakes. I believed on the principle that every driver has a right on the road. Nobody should be pushed or rushed even if other drivers are impatient for their turn. I always stayed calm.

I chose defensive driving most of the time. But before I leave the house, I make sure I check the car and necessary documents. I often forget my driver’s license when I change handbags and it is an inconvenience if you get flagged unexpectedly on the road for random traffic checks.

That kind if independence driving your own car gets to you. It is not about the car. It’s the experience.

What was the feeling when you first drove on your own?

It was on August, 2015. I was nervous and fidgety. I shouted on top of my voice inside the car asking myself “Why is it only now that you learned to drive!”. That day I experienced three engine shut down. I tried to perfect the shifting of gears and the engine stalled every time I was slow. I prayed while on the road. I avoided the highway and took the secondary roads which were less busy.

I scolded myself most of the time that I could have done it earlier but I waited until 50. Eventually, I had a sense of triumph because it gave me more chances to bond with my two fast-growing sons. It was also a huge accomplishment that at my age, I did it.

Until now, my biggest challenge is parking in a crowded area, such as malls teeming with cars and people. It was always tough for me to estimate the distance of the parking space and the cars beside me.

Then you got yourself a new car and drove from Luzon to Mindanao?

It took a while to decide. A mother like me would always look at the practical side of any decision. That was how I approached the idea of buying a new one. By then I was driving for close to two years.

I had countless discussions with my two sons Kyle and Ken on the type of car, how much and the payment terms as our budget will be affected. The most crucial question was, “Do we really need a new car?”

I asked around, checked with my co-workers and went car-shopping. While I was in Bacolod City on a work summit, I test drove a Honda car and I resolved that if ever I buy one, that would be it! I know that car prices are set to go up late that year so I have to decide fast. I did beat my own deadline.

But to save money, I have to buy the car in Manila, drive or get it shipped to Koronadal. That’s three major islands away. We decided it will be a fun challenge to drive it from Luzon to Mindanao. By then Kyle was already driving. I have a back-up.

Our two boys, Kyle and Ken, were my ultimate travel buddies. The car has become our bonding place.

How did we prepared for the one-week Luzon to Mindanao trip?

I started doing a good research. I browsed on the internet, read vlogs, blogs and reviews. I checked the route and roads for travel time. I also asked people who did it then marked the weather patterns. I chose the lodging houses plus the tourist spots along the way, noted the boat-transfer rates, took some notes and brainstormed with Kyle. It was an amazing way to teach my sons how to plan and execute it.

Then we decided on the schedule. I have to time it with my sons’ school holidays. Kyle chose the make of our new car, a metallic silver Honda, and after completing the transaction in Manila, on 14 October 2017, he drove it out of the Honda Cars shop in Shaw Boulevard together with our sales agent Cedric and picked me and Ken at the airport.

We ensured that all the documents are in place especially the car insurance. We want the trip to be hassle-free. We headed to Lucena City for the test-drive and formal turn-over. After a dinner, Cedric left us on our own. On the way we realized we forgot to take our ceremonial hand-over. Lucena was memorable because that was where it all began.

The route you took and what have you learned along the way?

 We travelled almost 1,500 kilometers in a span of two days with our online guide-WAZE.  We set off from SLEX to the Pan-Philippine (Maharlika Highway) with our goal to hit Legaspi City and see the majestic Mayon Volcano before dusk then head for Batangas-Quezon-Camarines Sur and finally, Albay.

I had my first, but short, driving stint (less than an hour) for an automatic vehicle when we traversed the CamSur to Albay road, as Kyle took his first nap from a 4-hour drive from Lucena. We were not able to marvel the real beauty of Mt. Mayon because the weather got bad. We left early at 4:00am and also never caught a glimpse of the beautiful Aurora Province.

Our second night was spent at Matnog, Sorsogon where Brave, the car’s got its name by now, got to her first boat ride in the Roll On/Roll Off (RORO) Fast Cat trip at 4:00am. We bid goodbye to Luzon on 15 October 2017.

Visayas Island came next via Allen, Samar through the San Bernardino Strait. With mixed emotions of fear and excitement, I took the wheels for my second driving leg and my first ever long drive from Samar to Tacloban.  It meant missing some fantastic scenic views especially the San Juanico Bridge which was truly a sight to behold!

Goofy time at Samar’s famous landmark – the amazing San Juanico Bridge. I was driving so I missed most of the view.

Kyle and Ken enjoyed the view of a lifetime on Samar’s famous landmark while I drove. We headed straight to Liloan Port in Southern Leyte for the second ferry boat ride to Surigao after being stranded for almost 2 hours in Palo, Leyte due to the heavy downpour which flooded the main road. We did not drive through the flood fearing the car might stall andl damage the engine.

The Fast-Cat (Catamaran) sailed us quickly back to our beloved home island of Mindanao. From the port to Davao City at midnight of April 15, with me driving, we reached Davao City at 8:00am for some quick stopover in a mall. After the rest, we were on the road again to General Santos City for Brave’s first Preventive Maintenance Check (PMS) at a Honda Cars shop.

On October 16 before dusk, our brand new car was parked in front of our house.

The time I spent with Kyle and Ken was every mom’s amazing adventure. I had their undivided attention and we even were able to talk about our issues, plans and aspirations in life.

After that wonderful trip, we did another one to Iloilo City recently on March 31, 2018 where we traveled through Cotabato City-Pagadian-Dipolog-Dumaguete-Bacolod route.

It always starts with a decision. The rest will follow.

Can you use your lessons in driving at work?

I have been the area manager for three years but had been working with Socoteco 1 for 29 years. Learning how to drive provided me opportunity to understand and relate with the problems and difficulties encountered by the frontline personnel who does a daily grind of job on the road on a 24/7 work shift. It was a tough job to do.

 

 As a woman driver, I always reminded myself to take mind over matter all the time.  Before learning to drive, I was delayed by the belief that I can never ever drive a car because I have difficulties with my eyesight. I also entertained fears that I may cause discomfort to other drivers. My mentor encouraged and boosted my morale.

Dare yourself: Dream. Save.  Conquer.

Any more lessons on driving and traveling?

Traveling in the Philippines means roughing it out! There were challenges on stop overs such as rest-areas with unpleasant odors, misrouted ways, undisciplined drivers and narrow roads. We sometimes had no choice but to hold our breaths and just laugh them off. That’s positivity in action.

Long-haul land travel, at times, can be uncomfortable, but the right attitude makes a big difference. We got left by the fast craft, and we had to settle for the slower boat. We never got annoyed, it was still a good experience! We enjoyed the sea breeze and island views on the upper deck as we wondered, “Are we there yet?”

The trip taught us to be patient. Patience is indeed a virtue with a lot of waiting in the ports, so much like life when you wait for the right things to happen at the right time. Rushing takes you off a fun experience!

The trip was not perfect as we wanted it to be. We had few hitches along the way we could have stayed longer to enjoy the sights. But then that’s a good excuse to do it all over again next time. I know we did the best.

The trip was an exciting adventure that Kyle and Ken will surely remember for the rest of their life. What truly makes us rich is not the things we own but the experience we dare to do – then live to share.

Meet Brave, my new best friend.